The O Coach: trying for kids
My fiancée plans to start trying for babies as soon as we are married. We are both really excited by this but I don’t want it to ruin our sex lives as we lose the focus on having fun and think too much about fertile dates etc. What can I do to ensure we don’t lose that loving feeling?
It’s easy to keep it fun, and you do this by keeping your focus on having fun and enjoying sex just as you always have. My advice would be to forget about fertile dates. Mother Nature has a great way of ensuring the survival of the human species. She increases a woman’s sex drive and make her more easily aroused when she’s fertile.
Studies show that men find women more attractive when they are ovulating, even if they do not consciously know this. The “I’m ready” signal is given off in through micro muscle movements in the face, pupil dilation. Some say women even smell more attractive and sexy.
So forget about “trying” to conceive with dates, and focus on making love when you most feel like it, when you feel most attracted to and aroused by each other.
Don’t make the assumption that trying for a baby means it a long drawn out mechanical process and months of waiting and trying. Many couples conceive the very first time they stop using contraception! So be prepared because it might happen to you too. If you simply relax and allow your bodies to choose when to make love you’re probably more likely to get it perfectly right than if you over analyse it.
In addition put your attention on to creating love, building love. According to Tantrikas “making love” was a literal translation. Meaning that when a couple was making love they were literally creating, and building love between them. This is sexual energy converted from lust into love and it was that love that would go into creating a child.
Focus on your arousal and turn it into love. Feel nothing but the attraction you have for each other, feel the lust and love. Simply allow yourselves to feel connected and become aroused. Keep your attention on creating, growing and building love, love for each other and love for the child. What soul wouldn’t want to be born into a home of pure love?
To your bliss
Lisa
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