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12:10 pm
May 26, 2009
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Yo, we're doing a piece shortly on the whole dilemma of asking the bride's dad for his blessing and wondered what any of you did in this situation. It seems to be an issue that really splits people. Some women think it's deeply romantic, others resent being treated like an object.
Personally, I spoke to Em's dad about it. Not because I wanted his permission as such (I'm not sure I actually asked, it was more like I told him what I was planning) but because it seemed like they should have due warning. Plus it seemed to be respectful and I'm all about that. I think he said, "Hang on a minute, you'd better ask Lyn first."
So what about you – are you planning to ask permission, or have you already? How did it go? Would you be angry at being treated like a possession? If you're a father would you like to be asked? Why?
1:47 pm
Groomus Maximus
November 19, 2009
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I had every intention of asking the FOTB because i think its is romantic and i think so would my fiancee but in the end i never plucked up the courage. luckily he didnt mind at all…… i think.
2:43 pm
Groomzilla
November 2, 2009
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My fiancé asked my dad, but also asked mym mum – my parents divorced when I was young and as I lived with my mum until I went to uni, it seemed a little strange to me that it's the dad who has to be asked.
As you said Andrew, it wasn't so much that he asked them more permission – more a "this is what I'm planning to do, shout if you've any thoughts" type thing.
I persoanlly was really pleased he'd done it – showed respect to my family and I really appreciated it.
10:40 pm
The Groominator
November 19, 2009
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My fiancé didn't ask my dad and I was happy with that. I'm not comfortable with the thought that I am a possession that my father is or is not happy to hand over. (Haven't lived with him for ten years and he wouldn't have said no – but that's beside the point!).
8:01 pm
I didn't ask her Dad (because he's died when she was 6yrs old) but I didn't ask her Mum either, and there was no brothers to ask. My (now) wife is quite independent anyway, so I figured she'd be the one to convince over anyone else and she didn't want to be 'given away' anyway so we walked down the aisle together.
It was awful when we went to the registrar to register our intent to marry – I couldn't remember her Dad's name for the life of me….they must have though we were a bit dodgy! Luckily everyone saw the funny side!
2:36 pm
May 26, 2009
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23Meteor said:
I couldn't remember her Dad's name for the life of me….they must have though we were a bit dodgy! Luckily everyone saw the funny side!
Haha! Yep, that does look a bit dodgy. Worse if you then struggled over her name too…
12:04 pm
Hmm, funny you should say that….her first name is spelled differently from the norm, and she abbreviates it anyway so I did have to give it some thought! Oh dear…Im a bad husband…. 
6:24 pm
The Groominator
November 19, 2009
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As long as you don't forget your wife's name, that's the most important one.
6:37 pm
The Groominator
November 18, 2009
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I didn't ask my fiancee's dad for permission – she wouldn't have liked to be seen as something to be 'passed on' from father to husband.
It's all a bit creepy when you think about it, anyway!
10:16 pm
The Groominator
November 25, 2009
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My wife's father passed away years before we met but I didn't ask her mother for permission. It didn't even cross my mind. It didn't matter if she gave me permission, I was going to ask her anyway.
11:07 pm
The Groominator
November 25, 2009
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i guess it depends on the family, but i wouldn't want my fiance to ask for my hand in marriage. i'm not a piece of property. i'm also not going to be 'given away' during the ceremony.
3:12 pm
Groomus Maximus
November 26, 2009
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I asked my Father in law to be's permission! I respect him and thought it was only courteous to let him know what i was going to do and when. It got me major brownie points with him and his wife 
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