Using Sex Toys After You’re Married
Hi Lisa, just wondering whether you think that after you’re married it’s time to put away the sex toys?
But you said you loved eggs!
Not unless you’ve included it in your wedding vows! I know there’s the bit about “forsaking all others” but I’m pretty sure that refers to other people and most sex toys are not considered sentient, not matter how much affection we may hold for them.
What you don’t share in your question is whether you are using the toys on your own, or with your fiancé. Either way it shouldn’t make any difference once you are married.
If sex toys have been an enjoyable part of your lovemaking then you should definitely keep them.
If you have been using sex toys on your own of course it’s entirely up to you whether or not you continue to do so. The only thing that might be cause for concern would be if you are using them as a substitute for intimacy with your partner.
It’s quite common for men continue to masturbate even when they are in a relationship with plenty of good sex. There are some biological reasons for this such as maintaining optimum sperm health for reproduction. Self-pleasuring with energy techniques will raise sexual energy to make you more attractive to your partner and the sex even better.
However if using a sex toy fills any kind of emotional need, or you prefer time alone with your toy to being intimate with your fiancé that would be cause for some concern to the longer term health of your relationship.
Sex is about intimacy and the deep intimacy that results from great sex is important for a healthy and happy relationship. It’s important to note though that you can create deep intimacy without sex, but why miss out on all the fun?
If you use your toy as a substitute for intimacy then you might want to address that in the interest of the longer term health of your relationship. If it’s part of intimate, loving and thrilling sex together then go for it.
To your bliss,
Lisa Turner
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