Too Much Prep?
One week gone already!
So what’s happened – my fiancée (still not used to saying it, let alone write it) and I had some lovely cards, an extra bouquet of flowers for Sharon, and lots of best wishes from friends and family, but also from across the interwebs.
I just wanted to say that we’re incredibly grateful for all the nice words. There was however one comment via Twitter that I hadn’t been expecting. Apparently one Twit(terer) thought my proposal was “contrived.” Each to their own, I suppose – but it got me thinking: exactly how much planning is too much planning?
Isn’t the very fact you are going to propose already contrived?! I mean, unless it’s some kind of post-coital outburst or a loop fashioned out of nettles Ray-Mears-style while rambling, I really can’t see how a proposal cannot be contrived. Regardless of how much effort there is in choosing the ring, the fact that you have chosen to propose defines the fact that you are planning something.
As to the deed – yes I admit I put a lot of thought into it – because that’s who I am and I am hoping that’s why Sharon wants to marry me. I personally can’t see how you can have a truly spontaneous proposal if you have actually put some though into it – would you really walk around all day every day with a ring in your pocket on the off chance you find the perfect storm of proposal conditions?!
Ok, so a little bit of a rant, but I think it’s a useful discussion to have – what do you think on the matter – how did you do it? Am I wrong, and was your proposal totally spontaneous? Let us know in the comments or the forum.
What have we done so far: We have a potential venue picked out, a rough budget and a rough guest list. We’ve shown the in-laws the venue for approval and wallet-lightening purposes. All seems good so far and hopefully I’ll have a date booked soon. I am very excited by it all, and secretly a little frustrated it’s going to take about a year to do all of this!
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