How To Have Great Sex On Your Wedding Night
WHAT NOT TO DO
Don’t try to delay your orgasm by thinking about something else
Many men worry about coming too soon, and the differences in men and women’s orgasmic and 
sexual response indicates that it is very important for a man to learn an effective way of delaying their orgasm.
Unfortunately the simply trick of thinking about something else, or doing your times tables is not the way to do this. Not only does this not work, it also means your attention is no longer on your partner and this will actually delay her orgasm longer too. Instead you need to learn to delay your orgasm. There are many very effective techniques (have a look at my site if you want some more) here is just one.
Practice masturbating until the moment BEFORE the point of no return. When you get to that point… STOP. HANDS OFF. Stop stimulating, contract your pelvic floor muscles, (YES men have them too) including your urethral and anal sphincters. At the same time take 3 very deep breaths. As you do so feel, imagine, visualise and move the pleasure waves moving up your spine in pulses.
You will notice the arousal in your genitals has reduced so that you no longer feel on the point of orgasm. Good. Now repeat this delaying technique for up to 7 times (taking 3 breaths each time).
Not only will this teach you to delay your orgasm whilst maintaining arousal, in theory indefinitely, when you do eventually surrender to orgasm it will be the most intense and pleasurable orgasm you have ever had.
Don’t worry if you “miss” and accidentally have an orgasm before 7 times. Just practice this process regularly until you do.
This delaying technique is perfect for solving premature ejaculation. Simply do this every time you feel yourself approach orgasm and eventually you will find you can last for hours.
Don’t go straight for the jugular (clitoris or penis)
Start at the outside and work in. Touch, stroke, kiss and caress other body parts for at least 15 minutes before you even attempt to touch the genitals. Particularly for a woman it takes at least 15 minutes for the sex hormones to be distributed around her body in sufficient quantities for her to feel aroused. If you rush it not only will she not be ready, she will likely feel invaded. Wait to be invited.
Don’t use too much pressure
The single biggest mistake made by men is to use too much pressure on the clitoris. The clitoris has TWICE as many nerve endings as the penis and over a smaller area. When you think you are using about the right amount of pressure, use even LESS. Feather soft strokes with the fingertips are perfect. If she wants it harder she will let you know.
Don’t expect your partner to know what you like
Even if they have had sex with other partners, that only means they know how to please them, not YOU. You, your body and your own sexual response is unique. What you like will be different to anyone else. So tell them, or even better, show them, what you like and how you like it.
Don’t expect sex to be like the movies
Although you might consciously appreciate this it’s amazing how those high expectations can creep into your unconscious mind and set you up for disappointment.
Sex in both pornography and main stream media is NOTHING like the sex most people normally have. For a start, almost every female orgasm portrayed is actually more like the MALE orgasmic response.
Don’t drink too much
Most people know about the effect of alcohol on a man’s performance, but alcohol inhibits orgasm in women too. You might have to make a choice between getting merry or getting laid. A great party or great sex.
Don’t just make love NEAR your partner, make love WITH them
Often sex can be two people having sex near each other. Really wonderful sex is always involves much more than the body. Other essential ingredients are love, intimacy and most importantly a sense of connecting deeply and sharing something wonderful with your partner. Make love with all of your being, not just your body and the physical sex will take care of itself.
For a free guide to the mystery of Sex transmutation, 7 secrets to the full body orgasm by Dr. Lisa Turner go www.the-O-Coach.com.
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