How Can Men Make Sex More Exciting For Women?
It’s easy for women to spice things up in the bedroom with sexy lingerie but what can us men do to make things more exciting? I don’t fancy putting on a shiny silver g-string.
You are right that it’s easy for women as lingerie will do it almost every time. According to esoteric philosophy men are naturally the voyeurs who gaze adoringly, whilst women are the natural “exhibitionists” who love the attention, being adored and worshipped. What this means for you is that you can heave a huge sigh of relief, that, as much as you don’t want to wear the spandex g-string, it probably won’t do much for her either.
Even in modern western culture we know that men’s sexual response is mainly visual, and the Tao seemed to know this a few thousand years earlier.
To spice things up, why not slip into your natural role of the voyeur instead by doing what she will love. Adore her. All you have to do is to worship her body. Keep the lights on, but low, and admire every inch of her skin, caress it, not only with your hands, but your eyes. Invite her to be the exhibitionist, to display her beauty to you. Let her know you want to feast your eyes on every bit of her. Make appreciative comments and noises.
Gaze into her eyes and really SEE her. Look beyond the physical and see her inner essence. Stay very present as you do this. The role of the voyeur is to be the witness, to be present for her. Do this by putting all of your attention on her, as if you only exist to gaze at her. Don’t allow your mind to wander off into a daydream of what she might be thinking. Just stay present for her. I guarantee she’ll notice.
If you like you can introduce some extra fun by decorating her body and hair with flowers, or even paint her with body paint, or even better something edible that you can lick off later. Turn her into a work of art: you can be the artist, and the admirer.
As you admire her, feel your own arousal and sexual energy build, and make sure you let her know. Show it, let her feel your arousal. This is what the exhibitionist seeks. Eventually the roles become reversed and intertwined as she watches you watching her and this increases your excitement together.
As a little background, the order of the Jade Dragon and White Tigress take voyeurism to extremes. The White Tigress and her Jade Dragon are initiates of tantra. The “White Tigress” would arouse and perform fellatio with a “Green Dragon” (which is a young, uninitiated man) to orgasm whilst her “Jade Dragon” would watch in secret. The Jade Dragon would use this to increase his sexual energy. The White Tigress absorbed all the sexual energy of the Green Dragon, who was not privy to the secrets of harnessing his energy yet. She would then make love with her Jade Dragon and they would exchange this potent sexual energy.
Although this seems to abuse the Green Dragon, there were, apparently no shortages of Green Dragon volunteers. It seems the White Tigresses were pretty good at what they did.
Of course you can take it as far as you like. Playing Dragons and Tigresses isn’t everyone’s bag, but like I say – just play with it and see what comes up.
To your bliss,
Lisa.
Dr. Lisa Turner aka The O Coach specialises in sexual energy, relationships and intimacy.
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[...] Staggered: Q: It’s easy for women to spice things up in the bedroom with sexy lingerie but what can us men do to make things more exciting? I don’t fancy putting on a shiny silver g-string.A: You are right that it’s easy for women as lingerie will do it almost every time. According to esoteric philosophy men are naturally the voyeurs who gaze adoringly, whilst women are the natural “exhibitionists” who love the attention, being adored and worshipped. What this means for you is that you can heave a huge sigh of relief, that, as much as you don’t want to wear the spandex g-string, it probably won’t do much for her either.Even in modern western culture we know that men’s sexual response is mainly visual, and the Tao seemed to know this a few thousand years earlier.To spice things up, why not slip into your natural role of the voyeur instead by doing what she will love. Adore her. All you have to do is to worship her body. Keep the lights on, but low, and admire every inch of her skin, caress it, not only with your hands, but your eyes. Invite her to be the exhibitionist, to display her beauty to you. Let her know you want to feast your eyes on every bit of her. Make appreciative comments and noises… [...]
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