Blog – Saving Sex For The Wedding Night
My fiancée and I have not yet had sex, she is not a virgin but told me when we met that as she knew I was the right guy for her, that she wanted to wait and save our first encounter for our wedding night. But what if we don’t have that chemistry and it will be too late?
I think it’s great that you are waiting and that you this you want to make a great encounter.
There is a big MYTH that sexual chemistry is either there or not, and that if it’s not there’s nothing that can be done about it, and that you will only find that out when you actually have sex.
So first of all, sexual chemistry is the attraction of opposite polarity, it can be created between you at any time. According to esoteric philosophy it’s the attraction of your yang to her yin that creates the chemistry and attraction, and this can be generated within each of you by building a charge within yourselves that the other will find attractive.
For most people at the beginning of the relationship this charge is already there and you can tell by how attractive you find each other, and I don’t mean just looks. It’s that energetic emotional sexual charge. So before you get into the bedroom you will know if the charge is there.
Once the energy side is taken care of, and I’m assuming as you are getting married there must be something there for you, then it’s more about getting your physical bodies in sync. And that’s just down to practice.
This is all about attitude. Approach this with the idea that it’s going to be fun, and be willing to simply go with the flow and enjoy experimenting. The more you relax about it, the more you’ll both enjoy it. Don’t expect it to be perfect the first time.
Think about riding a bike, the first time you fell off, maybe banged your knees before you worked out how to get the peddling and steering and balancing to happen all at once. Well sex with a new partner is just the same (but hopefully without the grazed knees, unless that’s your thing of course, and who am I to judge!) but with the added complexity of a whole other body in the mix.
A simple way to relax and get in sync is to match her breathing. Breathe in as she does and out as she does. You can do this without being too obvious. If she’s talking, she’s breathing out. Once you’re in sync, then concentrate on slowing your breathing down, and deepening it. If you are fully in sync when you change your breathing, hers will follow.
Be playful too. Keep in lighthearted. The more lighthearted you can be the better it will be.
Enjoy.
Dr. Lisa Turner aka The O Coach specialises in sexual energy, relationships and intimacy. Click the link for a free Teleclass on the Mystery of Sex Transmutation.
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