Blog – How To Keep Her Happy
Hi Brenda, Always on the lookout for how to get in the Mrs’ good books, have you got any sneaky inside secrets to keeping her indoors happy?
Dear Thoughtful Hubby,
The good news is, with that attitude, I am sure your Mrs knows what a lucky lady she is. In the beginning of relationships, men and women make efforts to please, seduce and interest their partners, but as time moves on, we get comfortable (read: lazy) and before you know it, your once-thoughtful mate is giving you “IOU’s” for your anniversary.
While the occasional card and flowers always seem to get the most press, the truth is, the reason these gestures receive such big smiles is because you are showing your mate he or she is still worth the time, thought and effort it takes to do something nice for them, “just because”. Here are some ideas for putting a smile on her face more often.
Help around the House: There are few women who enjoy being their man’s maid and many blushing brides and gorgeous girlfriends turn ugly when they are left running around to wipe counters and do the dishes for a man old enough to pick up after himself and do his share of weekly toilet cleaning.
Take Charge of a Date Night: Show your wife that you pay attention to what she likes by planning a special night for her every once in a while (once a month is fine). Ask her if she is free on Friday and then tell her when to be ready and dress up. Then make reservations for a restaurant you think she’d like or a show she might like to see. Making your wife feel like a woman being courted will bring back some wonderful butterflies and sparks.
Flirt with her: Send her sweet/sexy text messages and/or emails. Tell her she looks beautiful and be expressive with your romantic feelings.
Get Physical: Touching your partner releases oxytocin, a hormone that makes us feel connected to our mate. Hug and kiss your wife often, hold her hand while watching television and stroke her arm when you’re talking to her. An added bonus: you’ll likely have a more active sex life as many women complain their men don’t know the value of foreplay outside of the bedroom.
Don’t Just Hear her, Listen: Most men don’t realize the impact that giving their wives 15 uninterrupted minutes a day will have on their marriage. Turn off the TV, put down your blackberry and ask her about her day. Instead of nodding (or nodding off) make like a journalist and ask her who, what, when, where, and why. Example: What did you do today? Go anywhere special? Did you enjoy it? Why/Why not? Another tip: Don’t always offer a fix-it. Sometimes a woman just wants to talk about something with the person she loves the most – you.
Brenda Della Casa
Author, Cinderella Was a Liar
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